After the Divorce
The Aftermath of Divorce
The aftermath of divorce can leave even the strongest person reeling. Divorce often brings new worries, responsibilities and self-doubts. Many of these changes can bring on a sense of overwhelm and even bitterness. Recovery takes a conscious effort so that you can move on with a fulfilling life full of purpose.
Losses Must be Grieved
It’s important to understand that regardless of the circumstances surrounding a divorce, there is grieving to be done. Some things are tangible losses and others are not as easy to identify, like time away from children when they are with the other parent or the loss of the dream of growing old together. It’s important not to bury these feelings and forgo the grieving process. It’s necessary for healing. But it’s equally important not to become your own worst enemy and allow yourself to become stuck in a pit of bitterness.
Support is Important
In order to navigate the grief process and move away from resentment and bitterness, you must have a strong support system in place. Friends and family often mean well, but they can also unknowingly encourage the negativity often associated with divorce. Seeking professional help or a support group can help move you from bitterness to purpose. Rediscovering your identity will be a vital component of your recovery. Remember the positive qualities that make you unique.Forgiveness will also be part of the process. For you to gain freedom from the past, you have to forgive. Life can look and feel very different post divorce. A divorce is painful, but you do not have to stay in that dark place.